Salvatore

I've passed by a really cute guy in Starbucks busy in his Mac book or at least pretending to be busy. And then a funny thought cross my mind. Is this guy on Tinder? I haven't been using the app for quite a while. And then I remember all the funny anecdotes me and my bestie had about this site. She was forever teasing me because the last  times we were together when we see a cute guy in a mall or out in a restaurant I would say, maybe he's  my tinder match. And then the last time I had this funny story where I was supposed to meet an Italian guy I was talking to a few days in Manila. I was in makati staying in the condo of my other best friend and he was in the area.  He's name is Stefano. While we were planning to meet up the next day, the night before I was out with my girlfriends and we were texting and he said he was  also out in a party in BGC. 

Then the next day me and tweety my best friend were invited to go to Clark. We are to ride a chopper from Manila to Clark. So I have to text my date that we have to schedule our meet up to a later time since I figured I'd be late in going back to Manila later that day. So I texted him that  lets meet each other later tonight. It took him a few minutes before he could reply and what he said was that : hey, Change of plans, I met someone at the party last night and I kind of like her and I'm at her place and I plan to spend the weekend with her, please don't hate me! And I said, it's cool. How could I hate him when I haven't even met him. Then when I related this  to my best friend  she asked me  the name of this guy. And me being forgetful just came up with the name Salvatore since I remembered he's Italian. We had a laugh when she joked that I never told her that I'm dating the shoe designer Ferragamo. So from then on every time we see an Italian looking guy in Makati she would tease me "oh maybe that's your Salvatore right there and both of us would giggle like silly.  When I told her, maybe the girl he met was pretty and loaded since she's got her own place and then she would comment something like, you never knew she must just be staying in a boarding house and call it her place. That's the thing about me and my best friend we would have the craziest talk and laugh about very shallow stuff. Or in this case she was trying to make me feel better. I didn't really feel bad about it though. I mean it's Tinder. Yes, you may have the advantage of meeting people without doing much effort. Like you wouldn't meet anyone that easily under normal circumstances. Although at least there are those who still meet someone at a party.  But in tinder you get to chose whose near you and those you like (on paper) and who likes you back. What happens next is really up to you. In my case with Salvatore/Stefano real meeting wins and that what a difference a day could make or in his case a night...I'm actually curious if he and this girl really hit it off but I have no way to find out. Maybe he has deleted Tinder.  I would be a creeper if I still would message him after. Lol! 

Tinder and many other sites have indeed revolutionize the way many people think. Even in our country who's generally conservative. We all look for the elusive thing called love. That paradox brings out the best and worst of humans and sex hovering in the middle of the spectrum as well. As they say, love spawn wars and love can bring joy. Sometimes it is lost and sometimes it is found. Thankfully there exist apps like this one. We humans do crazy things for a deeper connection. Along with the good there's also the unpretty side of this revolution. We don't commit, we always think that there are plenty of fishes in the ocean. And never before where the ocean is at the tips of our fingertips. We can order a human as easily as we can order a pizza at Zomato. We think intimacy is a good morning text from across the oceans from a different time zone. We think romance is dead because maybe it is. But maybe we just need to reinvent it. Quite possibly, romance is when we need to put down our phone and look into each others eyes when we are at dinner. It's when we delete Tinder after having an amazing date with someone. So how could I hate Salvatore when indeed he was practicing romance in its realness. Romance is still there we just don't know exactly how it looks now.