Break up diaries

12.03.08
I was reading Cosmo Dec issue the other day and I run through a write up which says that, according to survey most breakup happens between December to February. Ironically this is true as to personal experience. I remember two of my breakups w/ my exes happened in January. Let me have my take on this matter. I am a psych major yes, but this has nothing to do with this crude analysis an attempt to comprehend this occurrence. People break up for so many reasons but breakups that happens supposedly in the most romantic (however, materialistic/ expensive ) seasons of the year being the trend is quite odd . I guess, the pressure of the season ender, deadlines most working couples have to hit in their respective jobs (or one of them gets busier than the other) , the pressure of juggling social events parties to attend, family affairs, visiting relatives and friends, guests to entertain, budget and financial considerations etc. However, being the romantic that I am can never quite justify all these reasons why two people who profess love for one another would break-up for such mundane reasons. I mean if you two are willing to work it out with the other person isn’t it fair enough that you have to fight it out till the bitter end?
Christmas is supposedly a happy season and the pressure to be so is magnified. I guess when one of the other is experiencing unhappiness and discontent it is during these season that it is felt more profoundly. And even more so during February, being the so called "lovers month". I remember one friend telling me that one Valentines he was HHWW with his girlfriend watching Boys II men concert in February 14 but exactly the next day they’ve broken up. So Christmas breakups - Karyl and dingdong, Vicki & hayden jolina etc. (excuse my being shobizzy!just want to stress my point ) is quite understandable.
The article also stated that men who wish to break up with you would spend less and less time with you and more with friends and would from time to time mention a girl, for instance a girl from the office to show you that your not the only girl on his mind! Clever! and you are expected decode it?
I wish men would be honest enough to tell you to your face that they are breaking up with you . Hurting as it may seem at least you are being spared with the confusion and the trying to figure out things! But sometimes, we stay deaf and blind just to be with someone. We never run out of reasons why we stay in a rutty relationship for fear of being alone. Decembers because its Christmas . We would stay till February so we have someone for valentines day then after that its going to be summer can we just survive it till holy week so we can have someone to go on vacay with. Me, Guilty!
Makes me wonder, maybe my bestfriend is right in saying that indeed I am a sucker for mutuality, that is I can’t stand being alone. Am I just in love with love?. Quite so, but for now, I will love somebody really fabulous! ME